A friend in need is a friend indeed. This age-old saying clearly sums up the wise man's understanding of what a good and true friend stands for to get the credit. However, with the fast lifestyle of most modern day individuals, it is not what all that will hold the people together in bonds of friendship but rather an instant gratification that spells out how two individuals, irrespective of their background will hold together.
In the days gone by, people would extend their friendship to hold for the respect and value they attached to each other's personality, profession, values, outlook and so on however today people just "befriend," anyone they think can be used and then later dump without a second thought. This is not just between the same sexes but also extends to so-called lovers and co-workers alike. All this is due to the faulty media messages flashed day in and day out that promotes greed, gratification and consumerism thereby make people believe that all that is important is self-interest and fulfilling of one's need and not the enlivening of a selfless and helping relationship that a true friend actually desires.
A Modern Day Friendship should, in reality, be the more refined relationship formed on a long-term, mutually beneficial yet selfless, easy-going, a learning experience. It should extend all time frames and like a true relationship should not succumb to the changes in time or get influenced by maliciousness of those who do not want it to prosper. A Modern Day Friendship should aim to be harmonious with the society and be ethical and can find a starting point in any of life's aspects like social, economic, religious, personal, political and so on.
The test of friendship is the maturity it shows in protecting its longevity. It does not remain to be said that most modern day friendships are actually falling short of meeting this goal as they are in actuality only casual acquaintances. A friend is one who is there for you when others are not. Can we say that our modern day snobbish and self-centered society allows us to meet such kind of people? Just like a modern city eats up the children's playgrounds, similarly, a modern society eats up our pure personalities thereby making people hollow and backward.
Modern Day Friendship is also crooked and impure because of the fact that the uncertainty in modern day lives makes most people selfish and opportunistic and thus destroys the resolution that should be otherwise present in one's life. Hence a conscious person would take upon himself to act in a dignified manner by building character in both himself and his friendship.
Modern Day Friendship should aim at appreciation and character enhancing relationships and not just appeasers and time pass stuff. Traditional friendships is what gives rise to meaningful relationships and shows light in darkness because it is selfless to a large extent. Modern Day Friendship can be a source of big strength, harmony and support provided they aim and achieve the right things in a right manner.
The test of friendship is how selfless and meaningful it is for the involved. Modern Day Friendship should aim to be light and pacifying and not burdensome. If something is easy and enjoyable without being expensive in terms of money, effort and time it will endure itself. This is what should be the aim of this.
Everyone lives in this world just once. To live for others friendly in a friendship is what will set one apart and will make one who is remembered.
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